Sexual Resources, Tips & Musings

“Be Yates” is a previous nickname, which explains “Be Yates” in these videos.

Insights & Inspirations

Breakups Can Be Beautiful

“Break ups” really can be beautiful, easeful and graceful! I am proud to announce the end of the most amazing loving partnership, and the beginning of an amazing loving friendship. The metaphor I like to use for what “happened” between us is like the Colorado River...

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The Pain of Gossip

How Gossip Can Damage Intimacy in Community I am scared to share this…and committed to learning and sharing my experience for my growth and the opportunity of growth for others. As many people know, I live my life pretty wide open with next to no filter. I am open to...

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Super Vulnerable Share

I have so much to learn as a human. This is one of my most vulnerable shares. I feel humbled. The irony of exposing what I am about to expose is I don’t want anyone to see this about me, but the funny thing about breakthroughs is “we” are the last ones to see it...

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Painful Valentine No More

My Valentine Love Note – From Pain to Gratitude Several months in my search for a Tantra mentor I found an amazing woman (who will remain unnamed) referred to me by two trusted friends. I reached out to her via private Facebook message. I shared with her openly and...

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From Humiliation to Celebration

Radical shift! As many of you know, the most humiliating and financial devastating experience happened for me this past August. The play that I co-produced, The Cock Project, in which its mission to contribute to ending global sexual shame, bombed in pretty much every...

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I Was Violated….Confirms My Purpose!

I am appalled! My experience is affirming why my job as a Sex and Intimacy Coach and Educator is soooooo needed! I went to Halloween party last night. Upon my arrival most everyone was drunk. This was an interesting experiment, seeing how I don’t drink and I don’t...

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Confidentiality…Even I Make Mistakes

On Integrity. I am oh so human. I made a “mistake” last weekend. To me, it is one of the most potentially damaging “mistake” I could ever make. A piece of information slipped out of my mouth that was confidential to one of my friends. As soon as I heard the words that...

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Fear of going out alone…and doing it anyway!

Nervous and scared…and I did it anyway   I went out last night solo downtown Boulder. I realized that I have spent very few nights going out on the town by myself. Last night I park my car and watch the groups of people walk by laughing together. I see the drunk...

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Are we giving for ourselves, or truly giving to the other?

A Vulnerable Share: Last summer I had a date night with my partner. During the evening I wanted him to read part of his “Now” Wedding gift I gave him (he has read 1/3 of it so far). He decided he didn’t want to do. I got upset and was experiencing an internal temper...

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Shame on Herpes

My heart was shocked on the way to work while listening to the radio. There was a couple that received the news from their doctor that they both had Chlamydia. They were clear of STD’s when they met, in which they both concluded that the other cheated. After 4 years...

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